My grandmothers are being the flower girls at my wedding – but not everyone approves of this decision
When we started planning our wedding, one little challenge quickly appeared: there weren’t any young children in our families.
Not a single niece, no nephew, not even a little cousin to be a flower girl or ring bearer.
Then suddenly, an idea came to me: why not ask my grandmothers to be our flower girls?
They’re both well into their sixties, full of energy, humor, and life — honestly, more lively than many people my age.
I called Grandma Odilia first. After a long silence, she burst out laughing:
— “Are you serious? You want two old ladies to throw petals?”
— “Exactly!” I replied without hesitation.
She agreed right away. Grandma Sibylle, a bit more reserved, needed a little encouragement, but thanks to Odilia’s enthusiasm, she finally said yes. And soon enough, they were getting ready as if it were the role of their lives.
Everything seemed perfect… until my fiancé’s mother found out.
During a dinner, she pulled me aside, her tone cautious:
— “Sweetheart, are you sure this is a good idea? It’s… well, a bit unusual.”
I understood immediately. To her, it was strange — maybe even a little embarrassing.
— “I think it’s perfect,” I replied calmly. “It’s our day, and they’re thrilled.”
Her lips tightened — the telltale sign she was holding back more comments. Luckily, my fiancé just shrugged:
— “I think it’s awesome.”
Still, I could feel the tension in the air. His family is quite traditional, and I already knew that at the ceremony, some people would frown. My mother-in-law kept saying she just wanted “the spotlight to stay on the bride and groom.”
And then, a few days before the big day… she crossed the line. (continued in the first comment 💬👇👇)
A few days before the wedding, my mother-in-law tried to talk them out of it, claiming they would “steal attention from the couple.” Odilia called me, furious:
— “As if two old ladies could ruin your wedding!”
Thankfully, they stood their ground. Sibylle had her doubts, but I reminded her that this was a role from the heart, not about tradition.
On the wedding day, the tension was palpable. Some guests whispered when they saw my grandmothers in their flower girl dresses — Odilia in lavender, Sibylle in pink. Then the music started.
They walked down the aisle, tossing petals with contagious joy. The room burst into laughter and applause. Even my mother-in-law ended up smiling.
At the reception, compliments poured in: “Your grandmothers are iconic!” Odilia and Sibylle loved every minute of it.
— “We should do this professionally!” joked Odilia.
— “Thank you for including us,” said Sibylle.
That moment confirmed I had made the right choice. Weddings aren’t just about traditions — they’re about celebrating love and the people who matter most. And my grandmothers deserved that moment as much as anyone else.
So if you’re hesitating to break a “rule” to make your wedding more meaningful… go for it.
